Tip # 63 Okay, so you’re not impulsive but…
“I want to think things more. I don’t want to hurt him.” How many times have we heard that before? Men and women say they don’t want to do anything – especially end a relationship – impulsively.
The problem is, you’re the problem. Admit it. The relationship’s been going downhill for the last 12 months. You’ve craved for freedom frequently, but you still can’t get to tell your mate that love’s gone out the window.
Stop pretending that you need to think things through. No matter how you analyze it, it all boils down to the same thing: time to move on. Here are examples of what your procrastination causes:
• You deprive yourself of the mental freedom you need to concentrate on other aspects of your life,
• You deprive yourself of the opportunity to meet other people who share your interests and with whom you can have a meaningful relationship,
• You deprive your mate of the truth about how you feel
• You deprive your mate of the opportunity to meeting other people,
• You deprive your mate and yourself of the chance to find happiness again.
Just muster up the courage and say it. Time heals all wounds.
Tip # 64 It’s not what you say, it’s HOW you say it
No one says ending a relationship is easy. There have been documented accounts of people turning suicidal after a break-up, separation or divorce. They fall into a depression, and a few are unable to come out of it whole and able to trust again.
But if you procrastinate because you’re worried about the aftermath, you’ll only be doing the other person a disservice. Talk to your mate when you have full rein of your emotions.
Yes, honesty is still the best policy but this is where you’ll have to optimize on your diplomat’s skills. Choose your words, and dwell on the positive. Convince her that both of you would be better off with somebody else. Offer to remain friends so the transition is not emotionally devastating.
