Tip # 63 Okay, so you’re not impulsive but…
“I want to think things more. I don’t want to hurt him.” How many times have we heard that before? Men and women say they don’t want to do anything – especially end a relationship – impulsively.
The problem is, you’re the problem. Admit it. The relationship’s been going downhill for the last 12 months. You’ve craved for freedom frequently, but you still can’t get to tell your mate that love’s gone out the window.
Stop pretending that you need to think things through. No matter how you analyze it, it all boils down to the same thing: time to move on. Here are examples of what your procrastination causes:
• You deprive yourself of the mental freedom you need to concentrate on other aspects of your life,
• You deprive yourself of the opportunity to meet other people who share your interests and with whom you can have a meaningful relationship,
• You deprive your mate of the truth about how you feel
• You deprive your mate of the opportunity to meeting other people,
• You deprive your mate and yourself of the chance to find happiness again.
Just muster up the courage and say it. Time heals all wounds.
Tip # 64 It’s not what you say, it’s HOW you say it
No one says ending a relationship is easy. There have been documented accounts of people turning suicidal after a break-up, separation or divorce. They fall into a depression, and a few are unable to come out of it whole and able to trust again.
But if you procrastinate because you’re worried about the aftermath, you’ll only be doing the other person a disservice. Talk to your mate when you have full rein of your emotions.
Yes, honesty is still the best policy but this is where you’ll have to optimize on your diplomat’s skills. Choose your words, and dwell on the positive. Convince her that both of you would be better off with somebody else. Offer to remain friends so the transition is not emotionally devastating.
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Stop Procrastination At The Work Place - Part 10
Tip # 60 If you are interrupted often on the job, Smith says, “Remain standing.”
People like to mill in and out of private offices just to make small talk. They’re the classic procrastinators at work. If they enter your office uninvited and appear to be engaging you in idle chatter, here is Jane Smith’s tip (Successful Work Habits, Hodder & Stoughton, 2002): stand up and remain standing. And don’t ask your unwanted visitor to sit down!
Tip # 61 Upgrade skills and expand knowledge base
A corporation does not need stale ideas from stale employees. Invest the time in upgrading your skills and expanding your knowledge base.
Learn a new language, add to your repertory of software, and take life-enhancing courses offered by your local college or university.
Don’t procrastinate, because you’ll never know when your company will create a position requiring a foreign language.
Tip # 62 Don’t procrastinate in ensuring a smooth transition for your successor
Your successor deserves a smooth transition. Schedule your departure intelligently. Tie up loose ends so that you can hand over your files and pending matters to whoever is taking over your job.
Help her succeed by not procrastinating. Type out an information sheet resembling a Frequently Asked Question list and give it to her.
This way, when the actual transitioning takes place, you don’t waste time addressing routine questions, leaving you more time to show her the key aspects of your functions.
People like to mill in and out of private offices just to make small talk. They’re the classic procrastinators at work. If they enter your office uninvited and appear to be engaging you in idle chatter, here is Jane Smith’s tip (Successful Work Habits, Hodder & Stoughton, 2002): stand up and remain standing. And don’t ask your unwanted visitor to sit down!
Tip # 61 Upgrade skills and expand knowledge base
A corporation does not need stale ideas from stale employees. Invest the time in upgrading your skills and expanding your knowledge base.
Learn a new language, add to your repertory of software, and take life-enhancing courses offered by your local college or university.
Don’t procrastinate, because you’ll never know when your company will create a position requiring a foreign language.
Tip # 62 Don’t procrastinate in ensuring a smooth transition for your successor
Your successor deserves a smooth transition. Schedule your departure intelligently. Tie up loose ends so that you can hand over your files and pending matters to whoever is taking over your job.
Help her succeed by not procrastinating. Type out an information sheet resembling a Frequently Asked Question list and give it to her.
This way, when the actual transitioning takes place, you don’t waste time addressing routine questions, leaving you more time to show her the key aspects of your functions.
Saturday, February 9, 2008
Stop Procrastination At The Work Place - Part 9
Tip # 58 Watch out, if you’re networking to the hilt, this could just be your way of dodging your responsibilities!
Your secretary looks up, surprised, as you bolt out the door. “Where are you off too?” “To my networking club”, you say.
“But that’s where you were all afternoon yesterday!” she persists.
“I belong to another networking club. It’s called diversifying your contacts, my dear. Got to expand those contacts, otherwise, the company can’t sell what’s left in our inventory.”
Go ahead and network, if you must. But if the excess inventory runs out of control, don’t go crying to your networking buddies. They’re not buying any of that excess inventory.
Tip # 59 And if you’re no longer happy on the job…
Don’t procrastinate about leaving and seeking better opportunities elsewhere, if you’re no longer happy on the job. If you and upper management no longer see eye-to-eye on your role in the whole scheme of things, then cut your losses (emotional losses included) and hand in your resignation.
If your salary is your sole means of support, then time your departure in such a way that you have another job waiting for you. Don’t let a regular paycheck or stock options or sheer convenience feed your procrastinating habits.
Your secretary looks up, surprised, as you bolt out the door. “Where are you off too?” “To my networking club”, you say.
“But that’s where you were all afternoon yesterday!” she persists.
“I belong to another networking club. It’s called diversifying your contacts, my dear. Got to expand those contacts, otherwise, the company can’t sell what’s left in our inventory.”
Go ahead and network, if you must. But if the excess inventory runs out of control, don’t go crying to your networking buddies. They’re not buying any of that excess inventory.
Tip # 59 And if you’re no longer happy on the job…
Don’t procrastinate about leaving and seeking better opportunities elsewhere, if you’re no longer happy on the job. If you and upper management no longer see eye-to-eye on your role in the whole scheme of things, then cut your losses (emotional losses included) and hand in your resignation.
If your salary is your sole means of support, then time your departure in such a way that you have another job waiting for you. Don’t let a regular paycheck or stock options or sheer convenience feed your procrastinating habits.
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